What to do when you are ready to quit?
After spending the last three weeks preparing, I almost gave up after only two days.
I couldn’t understand my resistance. Wasn’t I set up for success?
Although this is my passion and I even help my clients create their incredibly successful plans…
The bottom line is something did not feel right.
So what went wrong, and what does this have to do with you?
If you have ever felt like giving up, keep reading.
Step 1: Revisit your true intention
Sometimes, in creating goals, it’s easy to lose sight of what you want to happen and why you selected this path in the first place.
After you craft your vision and break it down into an action plan, your true intent can get lost inside the dollars, numbers, and spreadsheets.
So, if you don’t feel good executing your plans, it’s time to zoom out and observe them from 30,000 feet.
So, how do you do that?
First, tap into the intention behind what you set out to do.
What are you ultimately looking to create at the end of the year? How do you want to feel? Why do you want to achieve this?
Take a larger perspective to look at your general intention instead of the numbers.
So when facing resistance with no clear solution in sight, don’t give up.
Step 2: Why don’t you feel good?
Remember that your true goal will always be to feel in alignment. You feel resistance because you aren’t feeling good.
So, why doesn’t it feel good to make this happen?
It could look something like this:
1. It is challenging to keep up with the volume of messages.
2. I don’t have enough time in my day to recharge.
3. Focusing on a number instead of each individual feels uncomfortable.
Next, compare your list to the other goals you have set for the year.
Does this conflict with another objective?
How do all of the elements relate to each other?
For example:
If you want to enjoy your life and create a profitable business that’s scalable in 20 hours a week, and you are spending most of your time in messenger this is a major conflict.
Step 3: Is this still what I want?
After identifying why this goal is not working for you, do you still want to achieve this?
Is this directionally correct, or do you want to create something new?
If you tap into your gut and you still want to achieve this, it’s time to reframe.
First, ask yourself, How can this goal feel better to me? How can this feel easy?
Reframe your statement into something straightforward that feels more in alignment. Try different versions out loud while tapping into how it feels in your body. Continue to reframe until it feels good.
Example:
“I hit 10k months” becomes “I help 3 individuals solve their business problems each month.” The latter statement may feel better.
Pro Tip: Once this feels good, write how it will benefit you.
Step 4: How might I?
Often part of your resistance could be how you are currently tackling your challenge.
First, clearly define the problem you want to solve.
It is essential to create the correct statement to develop the right solutions.
Take time to make sure your problem statement includes everything you wish to create. Combine your intentions into one problem statement.
Example:
How might I enjoy my life while creating a profitable, scalable business while helping 3 people solve business problems each month?
Now it’s time to ask, “How might I achieve this?”
This frame opens up new possibilities. Brainstorm without judgment with the knowledge that there are no correct answers at this stage. Create quantity over quality solutions.
Just write on the page and come up with every solution possible.
Using the reasons why you don’t feel good from step 2, identify any themes, and make sure to keep those in mind.
Approach this exercise with creativity and openness.
Be willing to be messy, experimental, and have fun!
Why?
Research has proven that high energy and positive emotions increase problem-solving, intake of information, and creativity by 10x. Your brain releases chemicals that stimulate parts of the brain that are critical to the creative process.
So before you begin, make sure to be in a high-energy, positive state.
Pro Tips:
1. Dancing: This will pump you up, create excitement, is inspirational and positive.
2. Laughter: Watch something funny on youtube and laugh for two minutes.
Step 5: Implement Quality Solutions
After you have brainstormed solutions, find quality that works. Keep in mind, there will be some solutions that could seem impossible, but before you discount them, make sure to open yourself up to new thinking.
Eliminate what doesn’t work by asking:
1. Does this work with my original intent?
2. Is this feasible and solves my problem?
3. Does it feel good?
List what remains from your solution pile and sit with it to see if this feels good.
Once you feel good about your solutions, it’s time to implement them!
Create a new action plan based on your new intentions and solutions.
Always make sure it feels good!
Now you are ready to move forward with a new plan!
Recap
Resistance to your goals is a crucial indicator that something is not working. Taking time to work through the steps above will enable you to align with your plans and feel good executing them.
Step 1: Revisit your true intention
Step 2: Why don’t you feel good?
Step 3: Is this still what I want?
Step 4: How might I?
Step 5: Implement Quality Solutions
If you feel stuck, are feeling resistance, or feel like you can’t take a step forward, make sure to book a free discovery call so that we can work together to help you achieve your success! Book Your Call Here
Cheers to moving forward with ease!
Michele x
